How to Discover YOU in Life


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Life is funny, isn’t it?!  We are born…we go on a path that is created for us by our parents, we are guided to stay on a path true to ourselves but also with the values that we learn…we grow, we break, we heal, we live, we laugh, we love, we excel, we fail…it’s the circle of life, right?  Sometimes, this circle makes me just plain dizzy.    I’m finding that my circle has some gaps in it, causing me to stumble and jump over hoops to try to keep my circle complete.  What used to be easy decisions for me that seem logical have become more difficult as I tend to think with my heart more as I get older vs my head.

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What truly is expected of us in life?  Does it vary based on everyone and their own individual goals?  Where do our goals even come from?  From birth, we are conditioned to spend the majority of our day and life in school…then more school for college….then possibly even more schooling for grad school..or we just jump in a career of sorts.  We are constantly distracted by something, right?  We FEEL that we should be doing something along those lines, and for those who don’t seek that route, they are often viewed as different.  Then, take adulthood.  We are groomed to think that we need money, a nice house, a great title at a career….and for those people who don’t have that or don’t view that as important, those adults are labeled possibly as “free-spirits, hippies” or even worse, names such as “unmotivated, lazy…”  But, is that truly the truth?  Does ones lack of drive to attend school and have a career that encompasses their entire life mean that they are lazier than someone who does want those things?  I don’t think so.  Not at all.

I’ve been on both ends of this pendulum swing.  I’ve went to school, obtained my MBA, had a career with a great title, worked 75 plus hours per week to maintain the appearance of importance…and I’ve also had the route less traveled of a less stressful job that doesn’t depend on title, and taken some time for myself.  You may be thinking,  “That’s great- what does that even prove?”  I’m not exploring this process to prove anything but to rather open the thought process of how we view people, their life choices and our ability to be so quick to judge.

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After my “experiments” in life of hard work vs doing what I truly enjoy, my passion wins hands down every time.  Is it the responsible choice?  At first, I thought no….I need to have a title, a job with benefits and insurance and money to provide for our family…but then I also thought, I need to do something in life, my short life, that I love, that I’m passionate about and that I’m good at too, and I do believe that everything else will fall into place.  (Hence, where “leap of faith” comes from, right?)

What do you think?  Is the circle of life a farce created to make certain we do what is considered the “norm” or do you think following your dreams and passions in your one given life is the true way to finding complete happiness?

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62 thoughts on “How to Discover YOU in Life”

  1. Lyosha says:

    I think it’s important to feel happy and not look at other people or society thinking. I have had different periods in life and can’t say anything is that better pr worse.

  2. Cia Black says:

    Follow my dreams. Although my dreams have changed from what they were originally causing me to still have to hop , skip and take a few giant leaps. But in the end I find myself happiest when following my passions.

  3. Natasa says:

    You’ve touched one delicate subject here. The way I view it, it seems to me most people live their lives by inertia. Some never bother to consider other options. Some do, but fear of the unknown is often what’s stopping them to make a change. And the older you get, the lesser are chances you’ll make a shift. The undeniable truth is that time inevitably goes by, and our actions (or lack of) shape the only life we have. The decision on how our life will look like is on each one of us to make.
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  4. Melanie says:

    This is very true. For me discovering myself is all about reflection and learning from the findings 🙂 x

  5. Nina says:

    In some ways I’ve followed the norm and in other ways I haven’t. I just do what makes me happy. Right now that’s living in Spain and blogging.

  6. really interesting post. I do find I have to remind myself not to fall into routine so much – I am all about following passions and dreams over what is ‘expected’ x
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  7. Carley Clagg says:

    This was a great read! Self reflection is so important to me. Sometimes I’m not quite sure what I want, or how to get the outcomes that I want. Through self reflection and a little self recovery, I am able to help myself move forward in a positive way achieve the goals that I want.

  8. stacey says:

    I agree so much. Passion rules my life and I have passion for so many topics like travel, writing, photography wine and laughing.

  9. We all have different expectations in life and different goals too but the most important thing is that we should be happy in what ever we do.

  10. Marie says:

    This is very inspiring. I am still on the process of finding myself and it’s not an easy place to be. Thank you for reminding me that what I want matters!

  11. I think for me to be happy, doing things I love is much more important than having everything that I would materially choose to have.

  12. Joanna says:

    I think your life path also depends on your family background and the privileges you have been born with. Life doesn’t give an equal start to everyone and while others have to work harder to achieve their goals, some don’t need to move a finger. Also, I believe that our personalities are shaped the same way, depending what kind of childhood we had.

  13. jill conyers says:

    I believe that things happen for a reason. I think it’s a combination of both to find your passion and your purpose.

  14. Ithfifi says:

    I’ve battled with this concept a short while ago. I’m the opposite to the 80% of people I went to school with. I didn’t have a job (just got one!) I don’t have my own house, a partner, kids etc. But then I realised that while I want the job and the house.. I am happy as I am, what works for all might not be what is right for me. You are right to embrace things that are for yourself (why can’t you have it all, if you balance things) as you said.. life is short, grab it and enjoy it!
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  15. I think if we go searching for happiness we will miss it. If we spend too much looking to the future we will miss what is going on in our loves now. I think happiness should come from the little things in life
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  16. Amanda says:

    I’m still trying to find the answer to that question myself! It’s such a complicated one, and life is a complicated journey. I think what’s most important to me know is finding happiness. So I hope that no matter what path I take, I stay true to myself and find happiness. Very nice read, thanks for posting!
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  17. sometimes I think we get so busy with life that we do forget to take time to find the true us!

  18. I hear you, its why I quit my job because it was not making me happy and while it was more money it did stressed me out. You are right life is far too short! x
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  19. Preet says:

    This is such an amazing thought provoking post. For me, following my dream and passion did take a back seat for few years due to circumstances and I was in the norm routine. It always felt something important is missing in my life and now that I am back in self-recovery and self-reflection mode, I am feeling happier and satisfied.
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  20. This was so interesting. I think self-discovery can take time and you may need to discover yourself multiple times as you change over the years. I also think that sometimes you need a bit of a push to get out of your comfort zone in order to discover your dreams and chase what you want in life.
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  21. Kacie says:

    I feel like I am nearly always distracted by something lately, so it is good to have clear goals in mind.

  22. Sarah says:

    This is a great post, and I totally agree with you. I definitely feel that following your dreams & doing what you believe in is the key to happiness x
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  23. Sophie says:

    I’m a follow your dreams type, but I have always found a way to do that responsibly. I don’t like looking back and thinking I could’ve or should’ve, especially if things would’ve worked out just fine had I made the jump. Doing what I love is what makes me happy, and it makes me hungry to do more. 🙂

      1. Theresa says:

        This is a great post. We learn all in life.. good, bad, happy or sad, Family, jobs, travel, workouts, friends, food. All of this makes us happy so we shld learn how to face the struggles and be strong with it.

  24. Shubhada Bhide says:

    Being happy and enjoying your life is such a great and important thing to reach our goals in life. Focus and follow our dreams, always remind our self to keep on moving forward. Great article.

  25. Patrick says:

    I had a life and during the course of 2.5 years I watched it end….now I am just a clock watcher,just waiting to hear my number called so I can go home.

    1. Thena says:

      So sorry to hear. Thinking of you. <3

  26. Katie says:

    It’s good to pursue your dreams but it’s also good to be content. Experiences can be more meaningful than things. Family matters, God is faithful, and we can always find someone to serve.
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  27. mil says:

    Having a goal and working on it is the way to live your life to the fullest..also achieving a balance between work and family is another important step to achieve!

  28. Nicole V says:

    All I can say is life is a crazy thing. Every day I learn something new. I’ve been through some interesting experiences and I have learned a lot through the good and the bad. Our parents definitely set our path but after that, it’s up to us!

  29. Linda Hobbis says:

    I think the challenge is to create the right balance – doing something that allows you to pursue your passion. I’m not sure you’ll have too happy a life if you pursue your passion but end up stony broke.
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  30. It is always best if we are happy in what we do.Sometimes where we are is not where we want to be yet, but we can choose to go that way. Work your way to happiness and you’ll surely get there.

  31. Liz says:

    I think you hit the nail on the head! I worked for years at a rewarding but superbly demanding job both physically, emotionally and ultimately spiritually draining. It was common to work 70 hours a week. I was our primary bread winner and I felt all the weight was on me to support our family. As a result, I missed out on time with family, missed all the great milestones as my kids grew up and live in chronic stress. The last few years, I have had multiple medical issues and now have been forced to slow down and learn how to take care of myself.
    I think life is too short for us to be so unhappy. Follow your dreams, embrace your passion, and choose to live! No judgements of others OR yourself. I think we are harder on ourselves that others most of the time. At least I am. Remember that we are valuable and each of us have our own role to play and it might not be what mainstream feels is successful.
    Great post!

  32. I think doing things that you enjoy is always going to end up winning, Otherwise life is just existence…

  33. Stephanie says:

    Following your dreams and passions is definitely the happier path for me x

  34. Jenni says:

    We have been talking about this lately and decided that less stressful jobs with less money is the way forward for us. We don’t want to be having successful careers to not have tome for anything else

  35. I think of myself as a bit of a hippie since I dropped out of the 9-5 but I’m a very hardworking one!

  36. Valerie says:

    These are great questions to ponder – we each have our own path, and we don’t always know it right away! One of my favorite quotes is “life isn’t about finding yourself; life is about creating yourself.” Feels like that fits with your post!
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  37. Allison says:

    Your happiness should come first! Not what other people think! Everyone has their own version of ideal and it’s important to not judge based on your definition of “normal”.
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  38. Cait says:

    oh girl this just spoke to me this morning! it can be so hard not to compare and try and just be you- it takes time of course and a strong group of friends to help! Thanks for sharing this !

  39. Crystal says:

    This was an incredible story to read. Self-reflection is so important and too many people skip these daily thoughts. I couldn’t agree more about following your dreams to a happier you.

  40. Elizabeth says:

    A thought-provoking post, this. I think everyone has a different path best suited to their talents/personality and as long as we are content and not hurting anyone else, then anything should go.
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  41. Jovania says:

    It’s s a challenge to figure out what works best for you. I think it’s a matter of trial and error and having faith when it comes time to make a major change. I like to think we’re all figuring it out day by day, even those with fancy job titles and amazing houses.

  42. I couldn’t do something I wasn’t happy with, I learnt quite young through the loss of loved ones that life is too short, you are the owner of your own destiny and you grab everything that comes your way x
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  43. Shahneela says:

    This was a nice read, and much needed. We should do what makes us happy and content, thankfully I finally did what I wanted to.

  44. Lisa says:

    I think it’s so awesome that so many people find a way to make money doing something they love. It is great!

  45. I think it’s really important if you can to get out of the rat race – do something that you enjoy and love and be creative.
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  46. Jake Ferrer says:

    I think it’s important to choose to be happy and contented in our life. If you love what you are doing and contented what you are and what you have, you will be happy. 🙂
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  47. Rawlings says:

    I believe that through passion and chasing your dteams you become fulfillled and achieve your desired goals
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  48. I think the very best of life is finding a job that gives us the opportunity to make use of our education and skills in the pursuit of something we can be passionate about. But a balance between work and home life is crucial too, and at the moment there are still too few jobs that allow for that. Perhaps one day it will be the norm in North America, as it seems to be in Europe right now.

  49. Christina says:

    What a great, thought-provoking post! I certainly agree with this.

  50. Julie says:

    Take the leap of faith!!

  51. Tina Grant says:

    I think the main objective of life is to be happy. Most people while on this earth want to be happy. Our goals usually steer us to this ultimate goal in life. For some, that means a successful career, others a family with lots of kids and for others maybe it means to travel and see the world But for most it seeking happiness.
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  52. I have been on a year-long journey of self-discovery. It is amazing what happens when we step into our true selves; not the ones that people created for us but the one we created for ourselves. Excellent post, spot on!

  53. courtney says:

    At the end of the day, you need to feel complete and happy as you go to sleep. No matter what society says or what the norm dictates, your heart is your guide – at least it should be.

  54. Blair villanueva says:

    As a human we are borm with different mindsets. It is wise to focus first on yourself and not minding the others. Focus on your Passion and Desires. And you will find your happiness.

  55. Wow this is so deep. Would love to read more!

    Sondra xx
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    1. Thena says:

      Thank you so much!

  56. Mandy Mizell says:

    I’m on the path to follow my dreams now! Great inspo to read.

  57. it’s very hard to find your own self within all other characters out there, because people always want to be someone else, either because they see them as cooler, smarter, or a better version than who they are

  58. I think it is important to do what you enjoy for in the long run, that will define you, and doing something you dislike might totally break your spirit. Sometimes, however, it’s not possible – then you must make the best of the situation and try to find the silver lining.

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