How to Discover YOU in Life

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Life is funny, isn’t it?!  We are born…we go on a path that is created for us by our parents, we are guided to stay on a path true to ourselves but also with the values that we learn…we grow, we break, we heal, we live, we laugh, we love, we excel, we fail…it’s the circle of life, right?  Sometimes, this circle makes me just plain dizzy.    I’m finding that my circle has some gaps in it, causing me to stumble and jump over hoops to try to keep my circle complete.  What used to be easy decisions for me that seem logical have become more difficult as I tend to think with my heart more as I get older vs my head.

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What truly is expected of us in life?  Does it vary based on everyone and their own individual goals?  Where do our goals even come from?  From birth, we are conditioned to spend the majority of our day and life in school…then more school for college….then possibly even more schooling for grad school..or we just jump in a career of sorts.  We are constantly distracted by something, right?  We FEEL that we should be doing something along those lines, and for those who don’t seek that route, they are often viewed as different.  Then, take adulthood.  We are groomed to think that we need money, a nice house, a great title at a career….and for those people who don’t have that or don’t view that as important, those adults are labeled possibly as “free-spirits, hippies” or even worse, names such as “unmotivated, lazy…”  But, is that truly the truth?  Does ones lack of drive to attend school and have a career that encompasses their entire life mean that they are lazier than someone who does want those things?  I don’t think so.  Not at all.

I’ve been on both ends of this pendulum swing.  I’ve went to school, obtained my MBA, had a career with a great title, worked 75 plus hours per week to maintain the appearance of importance…and I’ve also had the route less traveled of a less stressful job that doesn’t depend on title, and taken some time for myself.  You may be thinking,  “That’s great- what does that even prove?”  I’m not exploring this process to prove anything but to rather open the thought process of how we view people, their life choices and our ability to be so quick to judge.

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After my “experiments” in life of hard work vs doing what I truly enjoy, my passion wins hands down every time.  Is it the responsible choice?  At first, I thought no….I need to have a title, a job with benefits and insurance and money to provide for our family…but then I also thought, I need to do something in life, my short life, that I love, that I’m passionate about and that I’m good at too, and I do believe that everything else will fall into place.  (Hence, where “leap of faith” comes from, right?)

What do you think?  Is the circle of life a farce created to make certain we do what is considered the “norm” or do you think following your dreams and passions in your one given life is the true way to finding complete happiness?

62 thoughts on “How to Discover YOU in Life

  1. Lyosha says:

    I think it’s important to feel happy and not look at other people or society thinking. I have had different periods in life and can’t say anything is that better pr worse.

  2. Cia Black says:

    Follow my dreams. Although my dreams have changed from what they were originally causing me to still have to hop , skip and take a few giant leaps. But in the end I find myself happiest when following my passions.

  3. Natasa says:

    You’ve touched one delicate subject here. The way I view it, it seems to me most people live their lives by inertia. Some never bother to consider other options. Some do, but fear of the unknown is often what’s stopping them to make a change. And the older you get, the lesser are chances you’ll make a shift. The undeniable truth is that time inevitably goes by, and our actions (or lack of) shape the only life we have. The decision on how our life will look like is on each one of us to make.
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  4. Nina says:

    In some ways I’ve followed the norm and in other ways I haven’t. I just do what makes me happy. Right now that’s living in Spain and blogging.

  5. Carley Clagg says:

    This was a great read! Self reflection is so important to me. Sometimes I’m not quite sure what I want, or how to get the outcomes that I want. Through self reflection and a little self recovery, I am able to help myself move forward in a positive way achieve the goals that I want.

  6. Joanna says:

    I think your life path also depends on your family background and the privileges you have been born with. Life doesn’t give an equal start to everyone and while others have to work harder to achieve their goals, some don’t need to move a finger. Also, I believe that our personalities are shaped the same way, depending what kind of childhood we had.

  7. Ithfifi says:

    I’ve battled with this concept a short while ago. I’m the opposite to the 80% of people I went to school with. I didn’t have a job (just got one!) I don’t have my own house, a partner, kids etc. But then I realised that while I want the job and the house.. I am happy as I am, what works for all might not be what is right for me. You are right to embrace things that are for yourself (why can’t you have it all, if you balance things) as you said.. life is short, grab it and enjoy it!
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  8. Sophie says:

    I’m a follow your dreams type, but I have always found a way to do that responsibly. I don’t like looking back and thinking I could’ve or should’ve, especially if things would’ve worked out just fine had I made the jump. Doing what I love is what makes me happy, and it makes me hungry to do more. 🙂

  9. Shubhada Bhide says:

    Being happy and enjoying your life is such a great and important thing to reach our goals in life. Focus and follow our dreams, always remind our self to keep on moving forward. Great article.

  10. mil says:

    Having a goal and working on it is the way to live your life to the fullest..also achieving a balance between work and family is another important step to achieve!

  11. Nicole V says:

    All I can say is life is a crazy thing. Every day I learn something new. I’ve been through some interesting experiences and I have learned a lot through the good and the bad. Our parents definitely set our path but after that, it’s up to us!

  12. Liz says:

    I think you hit the nail on the head! I worked for years at a rewarding but superbly demanding job both physically, emotionally and ultimately spiritually draining. It was common to work 70 hours a week. I was our primary bread winner and I felt all the weight was on me to support our family. As a result, I missed out on time with family, missed all the great milestones as my kids grew up and live in chronic stress. The last few years, I have had multiple medical issues and now have been forced to slow down and learn how to take care of myself.
    I think life is too short for us to be so unhappy. Follow your dreams, embrace your passion, and choose to live! No judgements of others OR yourself. I think we are harder on ourselves that others most of the time. At least I am. Remember that we are valuable and each of us have our own role to play and it might not be what mainstream feels is successful.
    Great post!

  13. Jenni says:

    We have been talking about this lately and decided that less stressful jobs with less money is the way forward for us. We don’t want to be having successful careers to not have tome for anything else

  14. Cait says:

    oh girl this just spoke to me this morning! it can be so hard not to compare and try and just be you- it takes time of course and a strong group of friends to help! Thanks for sharing this !

  15. Crystal says:

    This was an incredible story to read. Self-reflection is so important and too many people skip these daily thoughts. I couldn’t agree more about following your dreams to a happier you.

  16. Jovania says:

    It’s s a challenge to figure out what works best for you. I think it’s a matter of trial and error and having faith when it comes time to make a major change. I like to think we’re all figuring it out day by day, even those with fancy job titles and amazing houses.

  17. Kyla Matton Osborne says:

    I think the very best of life is finding a job that gives us the opportunity to make use of our education and skills in the pursuit of something we can be passionate about. But a balance between work and home life is crucial too, and at the moment there are still too few jobs that allow for that. Perhaps one day it will be the norm in North America, as it seems to be in Europe right now.

  18. andrea warren says:

    I have been on a year-long journey of self-discovery. It is amazing what happens when we step into our true selves; not the ones that people created for us but the one we created for ourselves. Excellent post, spot on!

  19. courtney says:

    At the end of the day, you need to feel complete and happy as you go to sleep. No matter what society says or what the norm dictates, your heart is your guide – at least it should be.

  20. Blair villanueva says:

    As a human we are borm with different mindsets. It is wise to focus first on yourself and not minding the others. Focus on your Passion and Desires. And you will find your happiness.

  21. Salwa kisswani says:

    it’s very hard to find your own self within all other characters out there, because people always want to be someone else, either because they see them as cooler, smarter, or a better version than who they are

  22. Flora_the_Sweaterist says:

    I think it is important to do what you enjoy for in the long run, that will define you, and doing something you dislike might totally break your spirit. Sometimes, however, it’s not possible – then you must make the best of the situation and try to find the silver lining.

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